How To "Stop" A Woman On The Street

“An Open Letter To Every Man Who Has Ever Been Afraid
To Approach An
Attractive Woman…”
Dear Friend,
I would like to admit something to you.
And I do mean that I want to “admit” something…
because I kept this a secret for many years of my life… and I
couldn’t bring myself to admit it to ANYONE.
I have an automatic, deep, gut level FEAR of approaching
women.
This fear didn’t come from “rejection” from women.
It’s not because I approached a woman and had
something bad happen.
In fact, one of the reasons I found it so hard to admit this
problem to anyone was the simple fact that I COULDN’T
EXPLAIN IT.
I can remember a time in my life where I’d see a woman
that I wanted to meet… and it felt as if there was a foot-thick
wall of glass between me and her. It was as if there was a
PHYSICAL BARRIER preventing me from walking over and
talking to her.
At one point in my life, I started to wonder if I was
CRAZY.
I could be standing there, looking at the girl I wanted to
talk to… and be READY TO DO IT… but when I “started” to
move in that direction, I felt something stop me.
I guess it just seemed so DAMN STRANGE… I thought
other people would think that I was mentally disturbed if I
talked about it.
Who ever heard of someone feeling like something was
PHYSICALLY stopping them from simply walking up and
talking to another person?
Well, if you’re reading this right now, then I’m guessing
that you know EXACTLY what I’m talking about here.
And the REASON you know is because you have had a
SIMILAR experience.
At least there are TWO of us that are crazy. That’s
comforting, huh?
The “Moment Of Truth”
As you already know, I spent a few years of my life
REALLY educating myself… working on this problem… and
figuring out how to overcome it.
The more time I’ve spent working on this particular
“approaching women” problem, the more I’ve come to realize
an important insight:
This moment… the moment when you see a woman
that you’d like to meet… and you consider it… and then what
you do RIGHT THEN … is actually a “Moment Of Truth”.
It’s a Moment Of Truth in terms of WHO YOU ARE.
This moment tells a story.
It tells the story of how well you understand yourself…
how well you understand women… how well you
understand the “mating process”…
It also largely impacts and even DETERMINES THE
OUTCOMES of the potential relationship you’re going to have
with that woman.
So much is condensed into these very short moments in
your life. And so much is impacted by these moments.
If you really have this particular “moment” mastered, it
has a massive impact on your overall life.
Think for a minute… think about how your life would be
DIFFERENT if you were a MASTER of this moment…
How would you FEEL? What would be different about
your ability to control your emotions?
How would you ACT? What would be different about the
way you’d behave… and what would be different about how
other people PERCEIVED you?
How would your success with women be different? And
how would that affect other areas of your life?
The bottom line is that if you invest the time and effort
to master this “Moment Of Truth”, it will change your life. It
MUST change your life.
“The Most Dangerous Mistakes
Men Make When It Comes To
Approaching Women”
I have spent literally YEARS learning how to overcome
my own fear and shyness… and learning how to approach
women in different situation. I have also spent YEARS
teaching other men how to overcome THEIR fear and
shyness … and teaching them how to successful approach
women, start conversations, and create ATTRACTION with
women.
I would like to “boil down” the top mistakes that men
make when it comes to approaching women… and then I’d
like to teach you STEP BY STEP how to overcome ALL of these
mistakes … and create MASSIVE success for yourself with
women.
Here are the biggest mistakes when it comes to
approaching women:
MISTAKE #1: Not Knowing How To Deal
With Fear And Shyness
We are ALL afraid.
That’s right. ALL of us are afraid.
In life, we all have fears… and it’s up to each of us as
individuals to either choose to overcome those fears… or
choose to let those fears run our lives.
For most of us guys, we experience intense fear and
shyness when it comes to APPROACHING women that we
don ’t know.
Here’s the part that’s a “pain in the ass”: When you're
experiencing fear and shyness, it feels like you’re the ONLY
ONE IN THE WORLD who has EVER felt this way.
The feeling can be SO intense, that it seems IMPOSSIBLE
that anyone else could POSSIBLY have a “case” as bad as you.
Know what I mean?
I laugh when I think about it, actually.
I have spent many, many hours in situations… looking at
a woman that I’d like to approach… but just not being able to
do it.
Then, later… after it’s all over… I think BACK to the
situation… and shake my head because I just couldn’t figure
out how to overcome my own FEAR… and just TALK TO HER.
The desperation that resulted from these situations was
intense. It was embarrassing. It was DEMORALIZING. It sucked.
As a man, one of the worst feelings you can have is that
something is making you feel like LESS than a man. And this
was one of those situations for me.
I’m kind of hard-headed sometimes. Maybe I like
punishment more than others… or maybe I just like to beat
my head against the wall longer than most.
In any event… I didn’t give up.
Even though I was going through this experience over
and over… of seeing a woman I wanted to meet… feeling fear
and apprehension… not being able to get up the nerve to go
talk to her… then thinking about it for hours (or days) after it
happened… I just wouldn’t let go.
I became determined to “crack the code” on this one.
Well, one of the big “ah ha!” moments I had was the
SIMPLE act of learning that I WASN’T ALONE.
Just like it takes some “nerve” to approach a woman, it
ALSO takes nerve to ADMIT when you’re having challenges in
life.
And one of the things I learned about my “fear of
approaching women” was that instead of being “abnormal”, I
was actually TYPICAL.
Imagine that.
Here I was thinking that I was emotionally retarded…
and then I find out that MOST guys have this same issue… and
it's just as intense for THEM as it is FOR ME!
Misery loves company… as they say. I guess that just
LEARNING I wasn’t alone was enough to really encourage me.
But then I learned something even MORE important
while I was learning how to overcome my own fears: I
learned that MANY OTHER GUYS had figured out how to
OVERCOME this “fear and shyness issue”… which led me to my
next “ah ha!” moment:
If they can do it, then so can I.
And I’ll tell you something right now: SO CAN YOU. And if
you’re open-minded and willing to do a little work on your
part, then I’d like to show YOU how to do it…
MISTAKE #2: Expecting The Worst
I have spent a lot of years reading Psychology and “Self
Help” books… and listening to audio programs… and going to
seminars…
I’ve also spent a tremendous amount of time “testing
out” the ideas that I’ve learned in these various books and
programs.
As a result of all this “trying stuff out”, I’ve come to the
realization that EXPECTATIONS play a very important part in
RESULTS in life.
People who always expect bad things to happen… wind
up having a lot of bad things happen to them.
People who only expect good things… wind up having a
lot of good things happen.
Is this Voodoo? Am I talking about freaky New Age ideas
that have no basis in reality of any kind?
No.
I’ve never tried Voodoo, by the way… but if you have,
and it works, let me know. I’m always looking for new ideas
that WORK!
OK, back to the point…
I believe that the REASON why expectations are so
powerful has to do with the part of your mind that
psychologists refer to as the “unconscious mind”. Some call it
the “subconscious mind”.
This is the part of your mind that’s “always on”… but it’s
working “behind the scenes”.
Have you ever been walking along… or driving… and
you sensed danger out of the corner of your eye… and before
you knew it, you INSTANTLY responded to avoid the danger?
Things like this happen to us all the time… but we don’t
really THINK about what’s happening in moments like these.
The reality is that when we go through an experience
like this, there are “miracles” happening inside of us.
In an instant, before we have time to “think” about
what’s happening, our entire mind and body have “taken
over” and moved us out of the way of harm.
If you take just one aspect of one of these situations, the
PHYSICAL MOVEMENTS, and examine it… you’ll find that more
is going on than “meets the eye”.
In order for your mind to perceive the danger, realize
that it IS danger, figure out how to respond, then get the
body to actually MOVE in away that gets you out of the path
of danger … requires a MASSIVE amount of “computing
power”.
Fortunately for you, all of the “computations” are being
done outside of your “conscious” awareness.
But WHERE is it all being done? How is it that you
“know” what to do… and you even DO it… before you
“realize” what’s going on?
It’s all being done in this part of your mind that I’m
talking about. It’s all happening on the UNCONSCIOUS level.
Now, think about THIS for a minute:
Most men who have problems approaching women
have one peculiar thing in common: They are all EXPECTING
negative outcomes from the approach.
And they also have a SECOND thing in common: They
don’t CONSCIOUSLY REALIZE that all of their expectations are
negative.
If you take time to ask, or you stop to think about how
it happens for YOU, I think you’ll realize that when you think
about approaching a woman, your UNCONSCIOUS mind starts
to INSTANTLY think about all the NEGATIVE things that might
happen.
In fact, for most guys, this “negative expectation
program” literally TAKES OVER… and they CAN’T EVEN IMAGINE
a positive outcome.
This“negative expectation” thing is kind of a bitch, by
the way.
It’s painful… and it’s not easy to change…
UNLESS, that is… you know HOW.
You’ve learned one of the most important pieces of the
puzzle for changing: AWARENESS.
Now that you KNOW about it, you can start to AFFECT
IT…
Now you need to learn some specific techniques to
REVERSE this thinking… and begin to expect POSITIVE things to
happen when you approach women…
MISTAKE #3: Making The WRONG First Impression
Another important think I learned about approaching
women is actually something pretty OBVIOUS, when you
think about it:
Attractive women are “approached”… one way or
another… CONSTANTLY.
Women who are attractive are approached in a hundred
different ways every day.
Sometimes it’s a co-worker walking by her desk and
smiling “too many times” a day…
Sometimes it’s a guy holding a door open a little too
long, just hoping to start a conversation…
Sometimes it’s a random email from a guy she doesn’t
know telling her that he saw her picture online and thinks
she ’s beautiful…
Sometimes it’s a friend who keeps sharing his “feelings”
for her…
And the more she’s approached (both subtly and not so
subtly), the more she develops a powerful “radar system”
that alerts her to a man’s intentions.
Most men don’t realize that their lame attempts to get a
woman’s attention are HURTING them. They don’t realize that
the things they’re doing are actually giving her a NEGATIVE
impression… and making it so that it’s almost IMPOSSIBLE for
her to be attracted.
You’ve probably heard me say that “Women aren’t
attracted to Wussies!”.
It’s true, by the way.
Let me ask you a couple of questions:
1) How many chances do you get to make a first
impression on a woman?
2) What impression do most men give off when they
approach a woman?
Right, the WUSSY impression.
And women have such a finely-tuned “Wussy Radar”
system, that’s I’ve actually given it a NAME… I call it WUSS-
DAR.
If the impression you make on a woman is that you’re a
WUSSY, then it really doesn’t MATTER if you’ve learned to
overcome your fear of approaching her… because she’s not
going to feel any ATTRACTION for you ANYWAY.
You can train for ten years and become the fastest
runner in the world… but if you start off the race running in
the WRONG DIRECTION it’s going to be pretty hard to WIN.
So remember: When you approach a woman, make sure
the IMPRESSION she’s getting is one that triggers ATTRACTION.
There are a lot of specific ways to create this impression,
and I’ll tell you some of them right now…
BUT REMEMBER: DON’T GIVE HER THE IMPRESSION THAT
YOU’RE A WUSSY.
MISTAKE #4: Seeking Her Approval Or Acceptance
If I could go around the world, and take ALL of the
situations that happened today where a man approached a
woman that he was interested in dating … and then
summarize and “condense” them into ONE “scene”, it would
have an easy-to-recognize theme…
It would be a man who’s nervous and shy… who is
trying to FIRST get the woman to LIKE AND ACCEPT HIM.
For most guys, they have it in their mind that they need
to get what psychologists call “approval”.
They think that the most important thing is that she LIKE
him.
Here’s what it looks like to the woman…
It’s like a guy is walking up with a big sign on his
forehead that reads: “I want you to think that I’m a nice,
sweet, caring, considerate man… and I would do almost
anything to make you like and accept me”.
And guess what?
IT DOESN’T WORK.
It never works.
Well, let me correct myself…
You will never win the lottery.
You MIGHT actually win the lottery… but you probably
won’t.
And you MIGHT get a woman to feel attracted to her by
working to get her attention and approval…
But you probably won’t.
I think I’ve made my point.
Using the “kiss her ass and hope she likes me” strategy is
a loser. It does not trigger attraction. It never will.
Hugh Hefner and Brad Pitt will probably write to me to
disagree… and then I’ll stand corrected.
But for regular guys like you and me, it ain’t gonna
happen.
ATTRACTION is triggered by a TOTALLY DIFFERENT
message.
It’s created by a man who knows how to TRIGGER the
attraction when he approaches… not by the man who HOPES
it will happen if he’s a NICE, SWEET, WONDERFUL GUY.
In short, DON’T SEEK HER APPROVAL OR ACCEPTANCE.
She’ll smell the Inner Wuss coming out, and she’ll shut
you down faster than you can say “I touch myself”.
MISTAKE #5: Thinking You Need To Be
“Original And Creative”
Answer this question:
When you see an attractive woman that you’d like to
meet… and you start thinking about how to approach her and
start a conversation… what’s the FIRST thing you think of to
SAY to her?
As you know, it can be TORTURE to try to come up with
what to say.
This torture, of course, is SELF-INFLICTED.
And there’s a common “theme” at the root of this “self
torture”.
This theme is that when we see a woman that we’d like
to meet, we tend to think to ourselves, “I need to come up
with something ORIGINAL and CREATIVE to say to her”.
Why do we do this?
Because we DON’T want to come across as insincere… or
even CHEESY.
So we look at her… try to notice something about her…
maybe try to come up with some kind of original
compliment … or creative humor.
Here’s the problem:
That attractive woman has men looking at her ALL DAY…
EVERY DAY.
And they’re all thinking the SAME THING.
From HER perspective, every guy is walking up to her
and saying one of the SAME FEW THINGS.
The irony is that in our desire and attempt to be
ORIGINAL…we wind up saying essentially the SAME THING as
the last hundred guys…
And TO HER, it comes across in EXACTLY THE WRONG
WAY.
The“original, sincere, real” compliment we give her is
just like the last bazillion she got…
And you just become one more “link” in the “mental
sausage chain” in her mind.
Really.
So what’s the solution?
The solution is to LEARN what to say when you start a
conversation with women. Learn how the PROS do it… so you
can get an UNDERSTANDING of what actually WORKS.
Only after you’ve learned from several experts… and
then used their methods in the REAL WORLD… should you try
to be “creative and original”.
MISTAKE #6: Not Having An ARSENAL
Of Techniques “At The Ready”
You may have noticed that the mistakes I’ve been
talking about have little or nothing to do with “pick up lines”
and “techniques”.
Why is this?
It’s pretty simple, really…
If you have all these other issues handled, then good
“pick up lines” and other techniques are like GUNPOWDER.
They’re INCREDIBLY powerful.
If you DON’T have these other issues handled, the best
techniques in the world can’t help you.
So, STEP ONE is to get these other issues handled.
Step TWO is to then learn the very best opening lines
and other techniques… so you have “proven systems” for
approaching women and starting conversations in ANY
situation.
Until now, there’s been nowhere to go for the solutions
to ANY of these problems.
Now there’s a place where you can learn to overcome
and CONQUER all of these different problems… PLUS get an
intensive training on all of the best step-by-step techniques
and “pick up lines” for every possible situation…
Now YOU Can Learn To
Approach A Woman In Any Situation…
And Never Worry About
“What COULD Have Been…”
Ever Again…
If you’re ready to finally kiss your fears of walking up to
women goodbye---and give yourself the priceless skill of
being able to approach any woman in any situation… spark
her attraction for you INSTANTLY… and leave with her
wanting you… I have some exciting news for you…
I’ve spent the last few months putting together a brand
new, one-of-a-kind program on “Approaching Women And
Starting Conversations”… and it’s finally ready to rock.
This program is NOT designed to simply educate you on
the ins and outs of approaching women… and it’s NOT just
going to give you a few great lines and techniques…
What this program IS designed to do is completely
IMPLANT the skill of approaching women into your game,
brain, and personality… and make it a PERMANENT part of
you.
We start with the INNER game…
In the beginning, I’ll show you WHY men have such a
hard time approaching women… why your adrenaline starts
pumping when you see an attractive women you want to
meet … why your brain is trained to create excuses NOT to
approach… and why you can’t ever think of the right thing to
say “when it counts”…
We’ll tackle each one of these problems HEAD ON… and
permanently eliminate each one of them from your system…
one by one.
From there… we move on to the TACTICS…
Did you know that one simple change to the angle of
your body when you approach a woman will TRIPLE the
chances of her giving you a chance?
You’ll learn this in the program (in only 30 seconds, in
fact…) along with DOZENS of other little tricks that---when
applied---practically FORCE a woman to respond positively to
you …
I’ll also show you how to stand out from every other
man that has ever walked up to her… even if you DON’T have
something “original” to say… and how to read a woman’s
signals FAST so you know when she WANTS you to
approach … the exact time when you SHOULD approach… and
when you shouldn’t waste your time.
And that’s just the beginning…
From there… we move on to the WORDS.
In this program you’re going to learn literally hundreds
of KILLER, word-for-word opening lines to start conversations
with women …
You’ll learn ways to approach women in EVERY
situation… from the bar to the beach to the bank… and of
course… easy ways to approach bartenders, cashiers,
waitresses, exotic dancers… woman who are “on the job”,
and women who are on the go and wouldn’t usually stop to
talk to ANYBODY.
I’m also going to share with you some of my “universal”
lines that work in practically ANY situation. I’m talking about
my “secret weapons” that I’ve never shared anywhere else…
for a selfish reason:
They are just TOO GOOD… and I wanted to keep them for
myself!
But what the heck… I’m going to share them with you
here (so long as you promise not to use them in or around the
city of Los Angeles … I’m only half joking here!)
I’m also going to show you what to say NEXT.
The approach is only the beginning… and it’s important
that you know how to transistion into an interesting
conversation smoothly … have a woman EXCITED about giving
you her primary phone number and email address… or get
her to drop whatever she’s doing to hang out with you right
then and there.